There was once a young boy named Calvin Stanley. This boy can do almost anything that any 11 years old do, ride his bike, play baseball, goes to school. The problem was that he was blind.
Many wondered why is it that this little boy do all these things while many people in the same situation just give up on life or live in sorrow and depression. In an interview, it became clear that Calvin’s mother was the MASTER REFRAMER in his life! She managed to turn every experience Calvin has, experiences which many viewed as LIMITATIONS into ADVANTAGES in Calvin’s mind.
Here is one example of her communication to him..
There was once when Calvin was very sad because he realized that he’d never be able to see his mother’s face. But Mrs. Stanley told Calvin, “Calvin, you can see my face. You can see it with your hands and by listening to my voice, and you can tell more about me that way than somebody who can use his eyes.” With a mother who had always been there for him, Calvin moves in the sighted world with trust and faith and unshakable confidence. Calvin’s dream is to become a Computer Programmer to design programs for the blind!
‘He who knows much about others may be learned, but he who understands himself is more intelligent. He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still’ – Lao-Tsu
The world is full of people like Calvin and we need more Master Reframers like Mrs. Stanley. There are multiple ways to communicate to yourself and the meaning you choose to emphasize is the life that you will get! One of the strengths of successful people is that they have the ability to turn the experience that work against them into something that works for them.
You have gotta change the frame!
SEE THE JOY you had. Look at the LESSONS YOU HAVE GAINED. See the GROWTH IN YOU as a person in whole. Then it is possible to MOVE ON from a positive outlook and be EMPOWERED to create an even GREATER RELATIONSHIP in future!
‘Life is not a static thing. The only people who do not change their mind are incompetents in asylums who can’t and those in cemeteries’ – Everett Dirksen